We will be chatting about “Friendship” this month!
I am super excited about this topic,
because I absolutely adore and love my friend’s!
Even though there are days they can work a sista nerves lol!
but HEY, that’s what friends do time to time.
Feel free to comment below and discuss with me your thoughts.
Take out your pen and pad if needed.
Do whatever makes you Com·fort·a·ble! (Let your hair down), let’s chat it up!
Definition of Friendship:
-Noun the emotions or conduct of friends; the state of being friends.
-Synonyms: relationship, close relationship, attachment, mutual attachment,
association, bond, tie, link, union; informal bromance”lasting friendships”
a relationship between friends.
-Plural noun: friendships
“she formed close friendships with women”
-Synonyms: Amity, camaraderie, friendliness, comradeship,
companionship, fellowship, fellow feeling, closeness,
affinity, rapport, understanding, harmony, unity; More
a state of mutual trust and support between allied nations.
Greetings Love Birds! Let’s Chat!
A best friend,
We all want friendships, but most of us don’t even know what that means.
How Do You Define Friendship? Friendship is a beautiful thing!
I adore the friendships I have & hello to future new friends too!
We might have different views on what is a friendship. Or maybe our views are similar.
But it is an universal definition.
However, there are different type of friendship you can form with people.
business partner friendship, work friendship, and etc.
We will talk about those in the next blog.
Back to the topic lol. Some people may say a friendship, is
“someone, you can laugh with, who’s always there for me.
” who knows the worst of me and still loves me, and I can trust them.”
That sounds sweet and all… but let’s be honest,
we can’t use the word”Friend” to loosely
and those things don’t really measure up to a friendship.
A friendship is more defined than that.
Trust them to do what???
I trust Zaxby’s not to put bacon on my salad when I asked them not to
does that make us friends?
Plenty of people make me laugh–
some I only know through FB, Social Media and the TV,
does that mean we’re friends?
Let’s be honest No one is always” there for me…
nor am I for them. does that mean we aren’t friends?
There are a lot of people I like but who haven’t become my friends.
Here’s a quote from George Eliot (who, as you may know,
was the pen name for Mary Anne Evans) on friendship:
“Friendship is the comfort, the inexpressible comfort of feeling
safe with a person having neither to weigh thoughts nor measure words,
but pouring all right out just as they are, chaff and grain together,
certain that a faithful friendly hand will take and sift them,
keep what is worth keeping
and with a breath of comfort, blow the rest away.” George Eliot
Yes, the definition of “Friendship” on the top of my blog from the dictionary was okay,
but I want to really define what is a “Healthy Friendship”.
I’ve taken my time to do some more research and compiling many different views,
and thoughts about what’s a “Healthy friendship”.
So we can all better identify and evaluate the qualities and actions of a friendship.
Friendships help define us. Our friends can influence our choices –
where we live, what we eat, what we buy.
Friendships grow and change as people come and grow.
The book of proverb says, “Friends are flowers in the garden of life.
” Friendships need their own kind of water and soil to grow healthy and strong.
Here are a few things to keep in mind to facilitate building stronger,
and healthy friendships:
–Choose friends wisely.
You do not have to be everyone’s friend.
Choose to be friends with people who build you up,
not tear you down. Choose friends who inspire you and welcome you,
not alienate and insult you.
You can’t choose the family you are born into,
but you can choose your friends.
Be yourself. Be honest.
Avoid putting up a fight. We all test our relationships by,
throwing something out there about our true nature.
We then hide behind a corner, head peeking out,
waiting for the response.
If someone can’t accept you for who you are,
developing a relationship with them will be hard.
Don’t shortchange yourself by denying your beliefs,
values, and point of view, for the sake of fitting in.
You won’t be doing anyone any favors.
-Accept your friends for who they are.
On your search for friends, who can accept your authentic self,
keep in mind – Other people are looking for the same thing.
We all want people who love us for who we are.
-Make time for your friends.
Spend time with friends.
It might feel odd to schedule your friends on your calendar,
but if you have a busy schedule, getting them in your book,
is better than letting them go.
Show your friends that you want to be around them. Is your friend far away?
Write them an email, chat with them via IM, call them on the phone,
plan a weekend get together.
Make time for your friends.
–Be a cheerleader. Be encouraging.
Motivate your friends.
Affirmation goes a long way.
-Admit and apologize.
When you do something wrong, admit it.
Learn to apologize. Sometimes a friend is upset,
and all they want from you is to (genuinely) say “sorry.
” It shows that you realize your misstep and,
that you will hopefully not make the same mistake again.
Show love for your friends by complimenting them,
on their good qualities or things they do well.
Has a friend done something you admire them for? Let them know!
Trying to understand things from your friends’ point of view
can help you communicate and understand each other better.
-Keep personal information confidential.
As relationships grow,
it is common for friends to share confidential information with you.
If a friend tells you a secret it is because they trust you and,
believe that you will keep what they told you in the strictest of confidence.
Do not betray your friend by sharing their secret stories with others.
Many times a relationship has been ruined over spilled secrets.
And…. Most importantly!!!
Have fun together.
Friendships, like any other relationship,
can fall into a rut sometimes
– especially if all you do with your friends is share your latest complaints,
every time you see each other.
Shake up the routine.
Go out and do something fun you both enjoy,
or look at that list of new things to try that you came up with and do one of them.
It’s great to have a friend you can open up with,
but lighten the burden load and let loose – create some happy memories together.
Now that we have a definition we know what actions
can start, build, repair, or end any friendships in our lives.
I will chat with you, in the Next “Friendship Blog”
Here are a couple fun quizzes,
you take with your best friend or by yourself!
We are living out loud!
And doing it
Chat with cha later, bye yall!