Welcome back love birds!
I hope August has treated you well, as it has been to me.
Can I sit at your kitchen table for a minute?
I know you’re probably wondering where am I going with this topic?
Honestly– this isn’t a topic that I had in mind for this month about Friendship.”
I was talking to someone I know.
I realized it’s a sensitive topic for some people, not many people like to talk about
some people haven’t-identified, they’re
jealous of something or someone.
And…that’s okay we’re going to address this matter together in this blog.
My HOPE is to inspire, you that you are wonderfully made, by GOD.
JEALOUS of your friend, neighbor, or whoever isn’t necessary.
I’ll tell you why shortly…
Don’t get me wrong…
Am I saying everyone that’s reading this blog are
I’m just bringing awareness to SOME people that aren’t aware
or doesn’t want to admit to themselves they are.
Let’s get REAL for a moment,
JEALOUSY does happen in some “Friendship”.
Whether you want to admit to it or not.
(Friendship isn’t always Pretty)
Jealousy can also be a hinder to your growth in life.
and the “FRIENDSHIP”, you have with others.
KILL this virus before it spreads!
feeling or showing envy of someone or their achievements and advantages.
“he grew jealous of her success”
envious, covetous, desirous
feeling or showing suspicion of someone’s unfaithfulness in a relationship.
“a jealous boyfriend”
fiercely protective or vigilant of one’s rights or possessions.
“Howard is still a little jealous of his authority”
protective, vigilant, watchful,
heedful, mindful, careful, solicitous
“they are very jealous of their rights”
To cure jealousy is to see it for what it is, a dissatisfaction with self.
– Joan Didion
Lets Chat it up!
I want to be transparent with you.
Before I gave my life to CHRIST, I was everywhere mentally, trying to figure what to do with my life.
When I was young I had things planned, but I still felt like I wasn’t where I needed to be in life.
I even struggled with my identity, who I was as a person.
I would beat myself up all the time.Then I started comparing myself with other people, getting jealousy saying to myself “why is my life like this”. (YES –Me. I got jealous).
I was jealous because I felt like someone else life was better, and I couldn’t figure out for the life of me why?!
After I gave CHRIST my life, I then discovered my purpose in life, and who I was as a person.
Could the root of the issue be some jealousy, that we’re struggling with our purpose, and not knowing our identity?
Because once you figure your identity, (Who you are), and your purpose.
You’re now in your own lane working on you, being the BEST you- you can be!
Being genuinely happy for others.
You’re now confident in you!
When you see someone else successful, you truly don’t know what they went through to get where they are today.
Yes, we are different as a people, but we’re all similar in many ways.
some folks,have went through life being jealous in some way.
The only thing I did different…
I exposed some of mines on this blog! lol
I’m okay with that, I’m just sharing my testimony.
We’re growing together, right?
My goal and HOPE is to set someone FREE!
Is it really a good idea, to be jealous of our neighbor?
NO! – Absolutely NOT!
Were here to support one another, because we’re on this journey together!
Jealously can spread and wrecks friendships and other relationship if you aren’t careful.
(Catch it before
Now, if you’re just down right jealous of someone because don’t like them,
you’re comparing yourself to them because you think you’re better than them!
That’s a whole… different level of jealousy.
That’s just being hateful and mean,
and that’s a sign of low self of steam.
That mindset will hinder you in life!
Recognize your strengthens, and know who you are!
No-one is perfect but God. You are wonderfully and beautifully made by him!
I will give thanks to you because I have been so amazingly and miraculously made.
Your works are miraculous, and my soul is fully aware of this.
Here are some tips help you on this journey!
Recognize your jealousy.
“When we name the jealousy, it loses its power, because we are no longer letting it shame us, Acknowledging that you’re jealous opens the door to learning.
Learn from your jealousy.
We can use feelings of jealousy as inspiration to grow, For instance, you realize that the reason you get jealous every time your friend plays her guitar is because that’s also something you’d like to do. Rather than wallowing in that jealousy, you sign up for guitar lessons.
Let it go.
Tell yourself that you don’t need this emotion in your life, and you’re relinquishing it, Then “breathe deeply, and imagine it flowing through you like the wind. Repeat as often as it takes to truly let it go.”
Manage your emotions healthfully.
“Practice mindfulness to calm your runaway emotions,” For instance, tune into your body to identify how you’re feeling, take several deep breaths and try to detach from the intensity of those emotions.
If your jealousy involves your romantic relationship, share your feelings with your partner after you calm down.
also suggested praying, fasting and, journaling, dancing to your favorite music and taking a walk.
Remind yourself of your positive traits.
Example: “She is really good at playing with her kids, and I’m not so good.
But I’m great at reading to them, and they love that about me.”
This reminds us that everyone has strengths and weaknesses.
Again, jealousy is a normal reaction. It becomes problematic when it becomes persistent.
When you find yourself feeling jealous, recognize what’s happening and delve deeper into your relationships and yourself.
And when you do feel jealous?
Treat it as a powerful messenger.
Jealousy shows you just where you need to go next on your own journey
Until next time love birds! Chat withcha in the next blog!
Love, Peace, and Blessings!